I've made a big decision this past week or so. I have decided to stop communicating with the boys' mom. I have been raising them ever since we married 10 years ago. We have had full custody for 9 years. I say I was raising them even that first year when there was joint custody because I had them more than anyone. We had them every weekend and two other nights a week.. meaning their mom had them 2 evenings and of course in the mornings to get them off to school.. on her days off when she could have them she kept them in day care because she was "busy." If there was a day off, school vacations including summer or if one was sick I had them.. A couple of times I was called by the school to pick up Max because he was sent to school sick.. the people in the office gave me the dirtiest of looks so makes me wonder what was said to them about me.. they probably thought I sent him to school that way.. If they were sick or they had routine stuff I took them to those appointments. I took them to all their sports practices during the week.
My husband and his ex do not get along at all. Have trouble communicating. In the past several years I've tried to keep the peace by emailing her..letting her know about day to day things and what the boys were doing.. I used to send her school papers and pictures.. even pictures that I had taken.. (we live 2500 miles apart) Things go ok for a while and she is nice but then for whatever reason she starts getting nasty. She might be nice in her emails to me for the most part but bad mouths me to the boys.. tells them to disobey and ignore me.. treat me like the maid.. I can tell when things are going downhill when she stars badmouthing my husband to me in her emails.. this has gone on for years and I've called her on it and she will be nice again. It started up again recently when the boys had consequences for something.. she didn't like it and said awful things to the boys. I emailed and told her if she was going to do that I was done.. and I am. I always was in touch with her to protect the boys from having to hear a bunch of garbage and lies from her about us.. they are old enough to figure it out.
They have both been told they can go live with her and they say they don't want to.. I told her the same and she says they shouldn't come because they love sports too much and we are in a sports town.. also her boyfriend who she lives with would be too tough on them.. and make them do chores!! How horrible! Whatever.. She has been calling and emailing me for days and I just haven't answered. I told her I was done.. and you know it feels so much better to be out of it.. maybe I won't feel sick every day of my life with this stress gone.
Max and Shelby
The parking lots where we live are being worked on.. it changes daily especially because we have had rain. I have to try to figure out where to park my car constantly. They sent out notices if cars are parked in the wrong area they will be towed.. Yikes!
On a happier note, my Mom is coming to visit.. will be able to stay a while and then go down to visit the little prince.. who, by the way, gets cuter every day. Then hopefully I will fly with my Mom back to the west coast.. we can visit my other two kids there who I haven't seen in a year.. and then she will fly to visit my cousin and then back to her Hawaiian home. I know she is homesick so she will be glad to get back.
The Little Prince!
Lastly.. A big shout out to my son and his beautiful wife. Happy One Year Anniversary!
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