Comedy??

My stepson does stand up comedy and is going to be performing this week at an open mic night.  A few friends want to come plus we need to know where the place is for ourselves.. of course the little rascal who is almost 21 doesn't drive so we will be taking him.. would be nice to go to the right address.  He had yesterday off from work.  He was still in his room at 1 PM.. so I emailed him the link I found and asked if that was right.. didn't get back to me.. later I see him downstairs and he said he didn't see the email.  I asked him to please look at it and get back to me.. nothing.. then about 5 I go in his room.. he has on headphones and listening to something on the computer.. kind of half asleep.  I asked him again and he said.. oh yeah I think so.. I said I need to know for sure.. ok.. and nothing else from him.

I made dinner and it had shrimp in it so it was something that had to be put together at the last minute and couldn't be sitting and cooking forever.. We usually eat about the same time every night and everyone knows that.  The only difference is if Peter is late.. but then I usually feed Max and Peter can eat when he is ready.. lately Max says he wants to wait and we can eat together.. which is something I like.. Max came downstairs at the right time.. then Peter came down.. he said he told Shelby dinner was ready.. so after I fixed our plates and we all sat down, Shelby shows up.. this was 15 to 20 minutes later.. I was a bit ticked.. Peter knew it and jumped up and fixed Shelby's plate.. He probably could have done it himself but I really don't want him touching all the food that someone else might eat..

I told him why the two things bothered me.. he just sat there and stared at the floor.. All Peter could say is he should have told him dinner was ready earlier.. I don't think that needs to be done.. he's an adult.. He works most evenings so I make him a plate and put it in the fridge for when he gets home.  And on days when he is off I usually just fix the plate and if he doesn't come down it will get cold and that's his problem.. sometimes I feel like a short order cook.. Maybe I'm being too hard headed about this.. I always make sure the boys have what they need.. Like I posted before I have started washing their bedding and making their beds each week.. I washed all of Shelby's clothes because they were gross and I knew he wasn't going to wash them.. I've been ironing his shirts.. I didn't tell either of them why I was doing it.. and if they noticed they haven't said a word to me about it.. I don't think it's too much to ask for some consideration.. After some prodding he finally said he was sorry.. but it wasn't heartfelt.. he did empty the dishwasher yesterday and acted like he should get a medal for it.. I did tell him thank you and I've never made that a job for the boys.. so when they do it it's a treat for me. So far this month he's been home has been pretty good.. I've overlooked things and figured it wasn't worth the fight..

I know kids will be kids but it's hard to take when I ask very little of them and they just don't do it.. they even have to be reminded to brush their teeth.  Last night I asked Peter to "remind" Shelby to take a shower before bed (because as far as I know he rarely takes one.. hence the smell in his room!) and not stay up all night.. he said he was going to shower in the morning.. did he?  No and I don't think either one of them brushed their teeth.  And Shelby stayed up really late and then had to be at work by 7:30 today.

I will be so happy when this school year is over.. One more year of college for Shelby and then he will have to be figuring out what he wants to do in life.. Not sure about Max.. he can't seem to decide what to do.  His mom keeps telling him to come back to Oregon to live with her.. who knows he may do that.. I know my husband wouldn't like it.. I'm neutral on it.. it would be the same as going away to school.. Shelby has talked about moving someplace where he can get into stand up.. not sure where that would be.. I hope it works out for him.. Four more months or so and school will be out.. Yay!