What Am I Doing??

I have started washing the boys' bedding because they don't do it even when asked. I am washing the older boy's clothes because he apparently doesn't do it.. I've had to throw out 2 sets of bedding of his because even after washing they smelled.. It takes days to air out his room when he goes back to school.. Am I being a pushover?  Do it wrong enough times and she'll do it for me?? Or am I just being a nice mom?

I'm even going to iron his shirts.. what has become of me??  The older one used to be so rude to me.. really hated me and for no other reason than that I married his father.. I've always tried to be nice to them both, did things for them.. but I also gave them some structure and boundaries where they had none before.. The older one is almost 21.  I think he is beginning to see I'm not such a monster and is thankful for the things I do.  He of course will notice I've washed and ironed the clothes and changed his bedding.  He will say thank you.. I don't know if I just say you're welcome or tell him why I did it..  I did it for two reasons..  I care about him.. and I also want him to be clean.. I don't want him to feel like he is getting away with something and I'm hoping he will learn that it's better to take care of these types of things.