Yesterday.. not too good!

Yesterday was my daughter's birthday.. of course I couldn't be there since she lives far away but I wanted to have a happy day.. for some reason I was so sick.. I had to take Max to 3 appointments and I don't really think that had anything to do with it.. Not sure if it's my regular "sick" or I had a bug.  Feeling better today but still queasy. 

I did get to talk to the girls and they were having a great day..  They did some shopping, had a pedi and Danny was going to make dinner for them.. so sounds like a fun birthday.

Doing timer cleaning because my Mom will be arriving tomorrow to visit.  Things should be in pretty good shape at least in her room and bath and the main living area and kitchen.  I've never driven to the airport here.. so that should be a trip!  I get nervous driving places I've never been and especially if it's far away.  I've gotten lost here a few times even though I have a GPS.. the lady told me the wrong way to go.. so my husband will check it out for me tonight to make sure I have the correct directions.  Looking forward to my Mom visiting and then we will go see the Little Prince.. then out to the west coast to see the other kids and get my Mom to my cousins house.

This 'N' That

I can't believe it's time for school to start.. In some ways summer seemed long but then in other ways it just flew by.  Shelby goes back to college this weekend.. Max starts school on September 6th.  He usually starts earlier but they are doing construction at his school and have delayed the opening.. which will mean he will go longer into the summer. 

I've made a big decision this past week or so.  I have decided to stop communicating with the boys' mom.  I have been raising them ever since we married 10 years ago.  We have had full custody for 9 years.  I say I was raising them even that first year when there was joint custody because I had them more than anyone.  We had them every weekend and two other nights a week.. meaning their mom had them 2 evenings and of course in the mornings to get them off to school.. on her days off when she could have them she kept them in day care because she was "busy."  If there was a day off, school vacations including summer or if one was sick I had them.. A couple of times I was called by the school to pick up Max because he was sent to school sick.. the people in the office gave me the dirtiest of looks so makes me wonder what was said to them about me.. they probably thought I sent him to school that way.. If they were sick or they had routine stuff I took them to those appointments.  I took them to all their sports practices during the week.

My husband and his ex do not get along at all.  Have trouble communicating.  In the past several years I've tried to keep the peace by emailing her..letting her know about day to day things and what the boys were doing.. I used to send her school papers and pictures.. even pictures that I had taken.. (we live 2500 miles apart)  Things go ok for a while and she is nice but then for whatever reason she starts getting nasty.  She might be nice in her emails to me for the most part but bad mouths me to the boys.. tells them to disobey and ignore me.. treat me like the maid.. I can tell when things are going downhill when she stars badmouthing my husband to me in her emails.. this has gone on for years and I've called her on it and she will be nice again.  It started up again recently when the boys had consequences for something.. she didn't like it and said awful things to the boys.  I emailed and told her if she was going to do that I was done.. and I am.  I always was in touch with her to protect the boys from having to hear a bunch of garbage and lies from her about us.. they are old enough to figure it out.

They have both been told they can go live with her and they say they don't want to.. I told her the same and she says they shouldn't come because they love sports too much and we are in a sports town.. also her boyfriend who she lives with would be too tough on them.. and make them do chores!! How horrible! Whatever.. She has been calling and emailing me for days and I just haven't answered.  I told her I was done.. and you know it feels so much better to be out of it..  maybe I won't feel sick every day of my life with this stress gone.

Max and Shelby

The parking lots where we live are being worked on.. it changes daily especially because we have had rain.  I have to try to figure out where to park my car constantly.  They sent out notices if cars are parked in the wrong area they will be towed.. Yikes!

On a happier note, my Mom is coming to visit.. will be able to stay a while and then go down to visit the little prince.. who, by the way, gets cuter every day.  Then hopefully I will fly with my Mom back to the west coast.. we can visit my other two kids there who I haven't seen in a year.. and then she will fly to visit my cousin and then back to her Hawaiian home.  I know she is homesick so she will be glad to get back.

  

The Little Prince!

Lastly.. A big shout out to my son and his beautiful wife.  Happy One Year Anniversary!

How would you feel

Just wondering.. how anyone would feel if they saw on Facebook that their elderly mother almost choked to death?  My mother is staying with my brother and his wife.. and frankly they have not been that nice to her in the past.. whole other story.. their 27 year old son came over and brought a sandwich to split with Nana.. she choked and he had to heimlich her 5 times until it was over.. I got to read on Facebook last night what a hero he was and saved his "nanny" (her name is Nana.. not nanny).. which is great.. I'm glad he was there and could help her.. I'm sure it was traumatic for both of them.. I emailed my SIL and said I was shocked to read about this and maybe it would have been something to share privately with family before posting.. she made one rude comment back and then nothing.. I think she would feel differently if it was her mother..

Dancing with the Bears

Look how much he's grown!!  He had his 2 months check up.. he's 14.1 lbs and 24 inches long.. 90th percentile for both height and weight.. what a sweetie!!

Life is Just a Chair of Bowlies

At least that's what Mary Engelbreit says.. I've always loved her.. used to have dishes, cards etc.. Things are more simple in my house now.. My husband and I have come to love simplicity.. I don't like to have a lot of things sitting around.. it's weird how my tastes have changed over the years.. I used to like country decorating.. then shabby chic.. now it's more streamlined and contemporary.. part of it is I don't want to have to clean everything.. easier to dust if you have very few knicknacks.. We still have stuff though.. I'm working on getting rid of it.. going to send things to my kids.. get rid of things we don't need or use. We moved from a 5000 square foot house to a 1742 square foot townhouse.. so we have more than we need..  When we moved we got rid of a bunch of stuff.. but there is more to do.

Have had some issues with the boys.. it's sad really.. they have been told to hate me, do things to annoy me.. I know the older boy has done plenty of that but I didn't think the younger one did.. but I'm finding out differently.. it's nothing big.. they don't do drugs or drink.. they don't even drive and that's their choice.. it's just little passive aggressive stuff that they know will bug me and it's done on purpose.. Maybe I overreacted but I'm so tired of it all.. but I don't and won't take being disrespected.. My kids didn't treat me like that and I am not going to take it from these boys. I have done everything I could to help them and somehow it's my fault they aren't with their mother.. crazy making.. Shelby even admitted that he does things to bug me because of his mom.. we told him if he's so unhappy and so committed to her to go live with her.. he said he didn't want to.. so there we go.. life is just a chair of bowlies!!

Having a day to myself.. one is working the others are golfing. I bought some furniture for my bathroom that I'm going to put together. Once it's done I'll post some pics.

10 years!!

We had the most incredible weekend away.. It was our 10 year anniversary and my sweet husband planned a little trip for us.. About 2 hours away.. we stayed at a place called Nemacolin.  There are a few different hotels there and he picked the one called Falling Rock.. inspired by Frank Lloyd Wright.  Check in was not until 4 so we first toured Lloyd's masterpiece called Falling Water.. so amazing.. I don't have pics because they are on Peter's phone but will post when I figure out how to upload them.. It was hot and at the end of the tour we were told we had just climbed 110 steps.. but it was well worth it..

We then checked in to our hotel.. so wonderful.. Friday night at 6 we read our vows to each other.. had some champagne.. we both cried because we are so happy together.  Peter got down on his knee and asked me to marry him all over again.. and gave me the most beautiful necklace.. sapphire and diamond because he said those are what to give on the 10th anniversary.. also said it's like infinity and how we will always be together..

I set up a little shrine on the nightstand.. our vows that Peter had made into a plaque, our wedding flutes that belonged to his Mother, our guest book, ring boxes and a picture of us.. we had the best time.. Saturday, I went to the spa.. had a massage and pedicure.. Peter toured the area.. saw a white lion and was actually able to play with her.. outside the fence of course.  We then had dinner in our room served by our butler!!  Yes a butler.. he came back later and drew a bath for us.. we could pick the scent we wanted and he lit candles and spread rose petals all around.. very sweet..

Next day we had breakfast in our room and then had to check out.. Never did make it to the pool since it was raining on Saturday.. but that's ok.. I think we will go again..